What excessive optimism or toxic positivity looks like You will constantly be pushing your perspective hard enough to listen to their actual problem. When someone around you is suffering from some negative life experience, the toxic positivity in you will refrain from validating their emotions. These unrecognized feelings make you unaware of who you actually are. You keep on telling yourself, ‘This is it’ and let go of your feelings. Suppressing your own emotionsįeeling your emotions is kind of shameful for you because they’re negative, the harsh truth of your life or something that contradicts with the shiny positive thing. What they’re truly seeking is a patient heart and an ear to vent to. Sometimes, people suffering from mental illness don’t need your ‘Everything is going to be okay’ advice. When you’re in your own bubble of excessive positivity, you fail at feeling people’s emotions. You somehow suppress your negative emotion and carry a sweet, smiley face all around. Ashamed for feeling negativeĭuh! Everyone around me is giving so high, how can I feel low and depressed?! This is what toxic positivity makes you feel like.
Sometimes, you even fail to honor your emotions and be an authentic self. When you’re being exposed to excessive optimism, you try to convince yourself that everything is good and glowy. These suppressed, hidden emotions erupt as a catastrophe which eventually is impossible to curb. We are snatching their right of being authentic and feeling their emotions. By throwing a sugary way of living life and feeling all-time positive somewhere suppresses human emotions. Looking for the brighter side is undoubtedly okay but forgetting that the sky also embraces dark as much as it does the light is where the problem lies. People with toxic positive will always make you feel low for being negative or experiencing difficult life situations. When Positive becomes ‘toxic’?Įvery time when we forget that we are humans and our feelings are valid though negative, we are encouraging positive toxicity. There indeed is no harm in being positive or preaching optimism but denying other emotions and slamming ‘being positive’ always can have negative consequences.
Tough we stress enough on thinking positively, we cannot shut our eyes towards negative experiences.īeing optimistic and realistic is altogether different. Life comes in all colors, negativity is its integral part as much as positive living is. We as humans deal with multiple emotions and it’s normal to feel sad, depressed though we don’t wish to. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires. “Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. Everything negative is bad and if you’re someone who experiences negative emotion, then my dear you totally have some kind of problem. In simple words, toxic positivity is the acceptance of only the positive side of life. The process of toxic positivity results in the denial, minimization, and invalidation of the authentic human emotional experience. What does ‘Toxic Positivity’ mean?Īccording to psychologists, toxic positivity is the excessive and ineffective overgeneralization of a happy, optimistic state across all situations. In this piece, I’m going to take you on the ride where we shall meet the darker side of being too positive and why you don’t need it.
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No, it’s not always awesome and life isn’t always full of shine. Our society has become super obsessed with preaching optimism that it has now become toxic for us. We may be a glass half full kind of person but being realistic does no harm. This whole concept of ‘positive vibes only’ is forcing us to see everything but positive in life. Life isn’t always sunny, rainbows, or full of unicorns. Many of us are in our life’s journey seeking truth and happiness but let’s be real. But we have enforced so much of positivity in our lives that instead of benefiting us, it’s forcing us to follow the trends. No, I am not another Negative Nancy and I still support and value having a positive mindset.
However, there’s also this thing called too much positivity aka ‘Toxic Positivity’. In fact, most of my poems and quotes depict the brighter side of life. I have always been loud and clear about having a positive mindset. Well, if you’re surprised with the word, ‘Toxic Positivity’ then let me assure you that you’re not alone.
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